I've been looking for answers a lot lately. Being a mom has my mind seems to only think in the question form now?
" Is Faith eating enough?"
" Did she just eat too much?"
" Why does milk come out her nose?"
" Is that a diaper rash?"
" Does she need a bath tonight?"
" Is that a good poop?" ( I ran last night to check when hubby was changing her diaper to make sure it was a "good" poop whatever that means :)
And the big one on my mind lately
" How can I get her to sleep more?"
I have sought advice and I have heard hundreds of answers.
" Keep her awake more during the day"
" She needs more stimulation"
" Only let her sleep in her crib"
" Feed her every 2-3 hours"
" Give her a routine at night"
" Let her cry it out"
" Feed her cereal"
While all of this advice, as wonderful as some of it is, ( some is just crazy because keeping her awake more during the day makes for a very fussy overly tired baby, and stimulation! This girl has more attention than Bal.lon Boys father did...she definitley doesn't need more stimulation!) so as wonderful as some of it is...the answers I am seeking are within.
I am Faith's mommy. Only I ( and her father) truly know what is best for her. I know her day in and day out. I know how she does her silly fake wailing in the morning to get our attention and then smiles the second I look into her crib and sing her the good morning song. I know how she loves great big stretches when we unswaddle her. I know how she loves starring at the letters on the wall when her diaper is changing. I know how she likes to be held when being fed and how she likes burping. I know how she enjoys tummy time for about 7 minutes then lets you know she's over it. I know right now her swing brings her the best sleeps.
Do I know everything? GOODNESS NO! But I do know a lot about MY baby, and the bottom line is she is special and unique and what worked for one might not work for her.
I ask questions a lot to other moms, family and friends and I deeply appreciate all the advice and warm wishes.
But in the end all the answers I could ever need lie within me.
So the best advice I have been given
" Trust your natural mommy instincts"
* On a side note I completely appreciate any tips, hints, advice, book rcommendations etc. This post isn't about not wanting advice or even being sick of it. It's simply my own realization that mommy instinct is the best.
" Is Faith eating enough?"
" Did she just eat too much?"
" Why does milk come out her nose?"
" Is that a diaper rash?"
" Does she need a bath tonight?"
" Is that a good poop?" ( I ran last night to check when hubby was changing her diaper to make sure it was a "good" poop whatever that means :)
And the big one on my mind lately
" How can I get her to sleep more?"
I have sought advice and I have heard hundreds of answers.
" Keep her awake more during the day"
" She needs more stimulation"
" Only let her sleep in her crib"
" Feed her every 2-3 hours"
" Give her a routine at night"
" Let her cry it out"
" Feed her cereal"
While all of this advice, as wonderful as some of it is, ( some is just crazy because keeping her awake more during the day makes for a very fussy overly tired baby, and stimulation! This girl has more attention than Bal.lon Boys father did...she definitley doesn't need more stimulation!) so as wonderful as some of it is...the answers I am seeking are within.
I am Faith's mommy. Only I ( and her father) truly know what is best for her. I know her day in and day out. I know how she does her silly fake wailing in the morning to get our attention and then smiles the second I look into her crib and sing her the good morning song. I know how she loves great big stretches when we unswaddle her. I know how she loves starring at the letters on the wall when her diaper is changing. I know how she likes to be held when being fed and how she likes burping. I know how she enjoys tummy time for about 7 minutes then lets you know she's over it. I know right now her swing brings her the best sleeps.
Do I know everything? GOODNESS NO! But I do know a lot about MY baby, and the bottom line is she is special and unique and what worked for one might not work for her.
I ask questions a lot to other moms, family and friends and I deeply appreciate all the advice and warm wishes.
But in the end all the answers I could ever need lie within me.
So the best advice I have been given
" Trust your natural mommy instincts"
* On a side note I completely appreciate any tips, hints, advice, book rcommendations etc. This post isn't about not wanting advice or even being sick of it. It's simply my own realization that mommy instinct is the best.
5 comments:
I LOVE THIS POST! This week my husband and I are battling with a family member that is watching our son. They are treating us as if we know nothing and when we make decisions they question us every time. They even questioned weather he really "needed" tummy time every day. ARE YOU SERIOUS! Of course he does, its for his motor skills development. They didn't feel like he really had to have it. I have been upset because like you I am the mother, I know what is best for my son and I know him better than anyone, even if I unfortunately do not get to stay with him all day. It breaks my heart but I'm still his mommy and I still know him the best.
Anyways, It was nice to see another mother voice the same feelings. I appreciate advice as well be we all just need to follow our motherly instincts in the end.
They truly are!!!
Amen!
I get the entire "cry it out", "cereal in bottle" and other unwanted advice too...and I tell everyone very nicely or at least try to that I am Shelby's mom. You know your daughter. You are her mom. Others should respect you for that. I realize some people are genuinely just trying to help but I have come across a few (uh, stepmom in law) that refuse to think that I might just know best.
Saw this... though of you!
http://www.storypeople.com/storypeople/WebStory.do?action=Show&storyInSearch=1&storyID=1678&newIndex=0&startIndex=0
For a long time there were only your footprints & laughter in our dreams & even from such small things, we knew we could not wait to love you forever
Amen, sister!
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