Being a new follower of this wonderful blog has be thinking a lot about myself and my marriage.
Being married to my husband has been easy. I'm not gonna lie. He has made me a better person in every sense of the word. We have been together 5 years and married for over 2 years and there hasn't been one " break" or moment where my mind every thought we would be better not together. When I met hubby I was 20 years old. 2 months away from turning 21. A day I had waited so long for. To be crazy, drink legally and have fun. Meeting my husband that early was certainly not on my list of to-do's. Hubby joined my mellow 21st celebration with my family and it was then I had to ask myself if I was truly ready to be in a real relationship. I knew at that time hubby was special and not like other guys I had dated. He had every quality I wanted in a husband, but was I ready for that? The answer easily came : Of course! I would be a fool to let a man this incredible go. Being 21, drinking, bar hopping, dancing til 3 am meant absolutely nothing if I didn't have this incredible man by my side. ( Mind you he was not by my side as he doesn't drink or club but you know what I mean :)
During our relationship we have faced some challenges no doubt. School, my dad's cancer, other family issues, my bad money management and of course infertility. Through it all I can say we have stood strong together, communicating, understanding and most importantly loving unconditionally. Meaning despite my mistakes and getting into debt, he still loved me. Despite my moodiness with infertility, he loved me. No matter what, he loved me.
I think the key to our marriage is many little things that compile into one big thing. Respect. I respect hubby by greeting him at the door every night when he gets home to say ask how he day was and let me know he cares. I respect hubby by thanking him when I wake up to a clean kitchen and dishes done. I respect hubby when I let him know I noticed that he vacuumed the floor. I respect him when I let him have his man time even if I may like to have some woman time of my own. And in the same way he respects me. He respects me when he thanks me for making the bed each morning. He respects me when he says thanks for making him dinner. He respects me when he allows me to stay home and raise Faith. He respects me when opens the door and welcomes my family in. When were mad we take alone time to respect the need to sort out our feelings. Then we talk it out and squash it. And out of respect for one another we never bring it up again.
Being married to my husband has been easy. I'm not gonna lie. He has made me a better person in every sense of the word. We have been together 5 years and married for over 2 years and there hasn't been one " break" or moment where my mind every thought we would be better not together. When I met hubby I was 20 years old. 2 months away from turning 21. A day I had waited so long for. To be crazy, drink legally and have fun. Meeting my husband that early was certainly not on my list of to-do's. Hubby joined my mellow 21st celebration with my family and it was then I had to ask myself if I was truly ready to be in a real relationship. I knew at that time hubby was special and not like other guys I had dated. He had every quality I wanted in a husband, but was I ready for that? The answer easily came : Of course! I would be a fool to let a man this incredible go. Being 21, drinking, bar hopping, dancing til 3 am meant absolutely nothing if I didn't have this incredible man by my side. ( Mind you he was not by my side as he doesn't drink or club but you know what I mean :)
During our relationship we have faced some challenges no doubt. School, my dad's cancer, other family issues, my bad money management and of course infertility. Through it all I can say we have stood strong together, communicating, understanding and most importantly loving unconditionally. Meaning despite my mistakes and getting into debt, he still loved me. Despite my moodiness with infertility, he loved me. No matter what, he loved me.
I think the key to our marriage is many little things that compile into one big thing. Respect. I respect hubby by greeting him at the door every night when he gets home to say ask how he day was and let me know he cares. I respect hubby by thanking him when I wake up to a clean kitchen and dishes done. I respect hubby when I let him know I noticed that he vacuumed the floor. I respect him when I let him have his man time even if I may like to have some woman time of my own. And in the same way he respects me. He respects me when he thanks me for making the bed each morning. He respects me when he says thanks for making him dinner. He respects me when he allows me to stay home and raise Faith. He respects me when opens the door and welcomes my family in. When were mad we take alone time to respect the need to sort out our feelings. Then we talk it out and squash it. And out of respect for one another we never bring it up again.
Lately I have heard to many people talking about marriage as " only a piece of paper". My husband had the perfect response when I told him how much this bothered me. He said " It's only a piece of paper if you look at it that way." How true that is! Marriage to some many only be a piece of paper but to me it is a promise to God to be true and faithful to one man for all of my days on earth. It is about loving my husband in the same way I love the Lord, it is about a union comparable to the union of Christ and His church, a sacred union that is so much more than a piece of paper and maybe the reason the divorce rate is over 50% is because so many people do view it as simply " a piece of paper".
Every night I pray for Faith's husband. I stand by her crib and pray that he is loved half as much as she is ( because as much as we love her half would be more than enough :) I pray that he has a mother and father who not only love him unconditionally but love one another that same way. I pray that he loves the Lord and will find our baby girl when God says it is time.
I also pray for my friends who have not yet met their husbands. Being married and then becoming a mother was one of God's greatest gifts to m and I pray for my friends that they may experience God's full love when the look into their husbands eyes and say " I do"
Every night I pray for Faith's husband. I stand by her crib and pray that he is loved half as much as she is ( because as much as we love her half would be more than enough :) I pray that he has a mother and father who not only love him unconditionally but love one another that same way. I pray that he loves the Lord and will find our baby girl when God says it is time.
I also pray for my friends who have not yet met their husbands. Being married and then becoming a mother was one of God's greatest gifts to m and I pray for my friends that they may experience God's full love when the look into their husbands eyes and say " I do"
Thank you God for more than a piece of paper. Thank you for a man who loves You and loves me just as I am. For a marriage that is holy, and while imperfect, willing to work at it, whatever may be in the future. Thank you for a man who is as wonderful a husband as he is a father. Thank you that Faith has a beautiful example of what a husband should be so one day she will know how to find a man of God that she will one day marry.
I pray Lord for all women out there that they may feel as loved and as blessed as my husband makes me feel. I pray for those who are suffering in their marriage that you could heal their hearts and show them that You truly are the ultimate lover. Your love is never ending and never failing.
I pray this all in your name...Amen
8 comments:
What a nice post. I agree with you completely that a marriage isn't just a piece of paper. Its a union between a man and a women and God.
I'm so glad you and your husband have such a strong and loving relationship. These trials we go through truly do strengthen us and make us closer if we allow them to.
Thank you so much for posting about our blog. I am glad that you enjoy reading it. Have a great weekend!
Aimee
www.womensmarriageministry.com
Wow, our situations sound SO much alike. I just discovered your blog & I am really enjoying it!
Wow, I am amazed at how similar our situations are! My husband & I are considering adoption. Thank you for sharing your story!
Thank you for remembering us single friends in your prayers. We can only hope to have a marriage and family as wonderful as you and yours are!
what a great post and totally agree that a marriage is definitely NOT just a piece of paper but Ive heard this time and time over and it just saddens me too.
What a beautiful post. Thanks for sharing! While I know I can't be judgmental, my heart hurts for those who have a "paper" marriage. The love my husband gives me has revealed the love of Christ (in an Earthly way, as he is only human, but it hints at the supernatural love of Christ in its generosity). I can't imagine going through live without that depth of love anymore. I am definitely a more generous person now myself because of that example and understanding.
what a beautiful post!
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