See I'm totally meant to be a mom!
But... I am stressing too much about the Dear Birthmother letter. Or am I? That's the thing its so hard because I look at it as our life line , our whole self and life and reason we should be parents into one little "folder" (for lack of a better word). So obviously it is SOOOOO IMPORTANT! But at the same time I do think I am over thinking it, trying to write what somebody wants as opposed to really just being us. Then I get over sensitive. " Oh maybe this would offend her" or " Oh maybe that sentence would rule us out" I'm going crazy!
My and hubby have been trying to do it together. But guess what? You can't! Now don't get me wrong we are in this TOGETHER! We share the same beliefs about life, love, and living but when it comes to writing them down on paper we have 2 very different writing styles to do this. So we are 110% officially doing it on our own, then going to go over each other's and then editing them from there. I think this will work much better.
Our anniversary is August 4th so we are looking at finishing it before then. That's kinda the goal we set for our self. With hubby working 40+ hour work weeks, I have 2 huge midterms this week, plus 2 huge assignments for my other class, so while our goal may seem far away it will be here before we know it!
On the plus side I do think that we have a lot of great pictures to choose from for the profile. We do want to have a friend take some more casual non posed shots for us at this beautiful garden about 20 miles from here. Problem is my photography friend is getting married in October and has her own load to do BUT I am hoping she can spare an hour for us...That would really help us with the cover shot.
Oh yeah and we have baby stuff! OK not exactly! But my best friend *M* let us borrow her infant car seat and her pack and play. Beyond that we will wait until our baby shower to get everything. We plan on having the baby shower after we bring Baby W home but we knew the 2 things we would need, would be a way to bring baby home ( car seat) and a place for baby to sleep ( pack and play) *M* also got us an adorable baby outfit that is too cute! I have to say I love having baby clothes hanging in the closet :) Oh yeah and tomorrow just because I will post all the cute baby stuff I am thinking of! We did register already too! I'm totally crazy but just want to be ready :)
And in other news we signed on for another year lease with our apartment. It wasn't exactly what either one of us wanted but people if I can warn you " Don't move to Southern California unless your a millionaire" It's just crazy. A decent 2 bedroom apartment in our area runs no less then $1500 and that's for a crappy one. You want a nice one be ready to pay around $1700+ for about 900 square feet of space. So our deal is much better than those so we decided to stay. Honestly our home has all we need. 2 bedrooms, bathroom, dishwasher and washer dryer ( which is my big ticket item!) It's "quaint" aka small, but I thought about baby and his/her stuff and we'll be fine, the important thing is love not space! And love we have plenty of! After the next year here we will probably most likely be making a BIG move but that is another topic of conversation :)
OK I think my mind is clear now!
Have a wonderful Wednesday!
My and hubby have been trying to do it together. But guess what? You can't! Now don't get me wrong we are in this TOGETHER! We share the same beliefs about life, love, and living but when it comes to writing them down on paper we have 2 very different writing styles to do this. So we are 110% officially doing it on our own, then going to go over each other's and then editing them from there. I think this will work much better.
Our anniversary is August 4th so we are looking at finishing it before then. That's kinda the goal we set for our self. With hubby working 40+ hour work weeks, I have 2 huge midterms this week, plus 2 huge assignments for my other class, so while our goal may seem far away it will be here before we know it!
On the plus side I do think that we have a lot of great pictures to choose from for the profile. We do want to have a friend take some more casual non posed shots for us at this beautiful garden about 20 miles from here. Problem is my photography friend is getting married in October and has her own load to do BUT I am hoping she can spare an hour for us...That would really help us with the cover shot.
Oh yeah and we have baby stuff! OK not exactly! But my best friend *M* let us borrow her infant car seat and her pack and play. Beyond that we will wait until our baby shower to get everything. We plan on having the baby shower after we bring Baby W home but we knew the 2 things we would need, would be a way to bring baby home ( car seat) and a place for baby to sleep ( pack and play) *M* also got us an adorable baby outfit that is too cute! I have to say I love having baby clothes hanging in the closet :) Oh yeah and tomorrow just because I will post all the cute baby stuff I am thinking of! We did register already too! I'm totally crazy but just want to be ready :)
And in other news we signed on for another year lease with our apartment. It wasn't exactly what either one of us wanted but people if I can warn you " Don't move to Southern California unless your a millionaire" It's just crazy. A decent 2 bedroom apartment in our area runs no less then $1500 and that's for a crappy one. You want a nice one be ready to pay around $1700+ for about 900 square feet of space. So our deal is much better than those so we decided to stay. Honestly our home has all we need. 2 bedrooms, bathroom, dishwasher and washer dryer ( which is my big ticket item!) It's "quaint" aka small, but I thought about baby and his/her stuff and we'll be fine, the important thing is love not space! And love we have plenty of! After the next year here we will probably most likely be making a BIG move but that is another topic of conversation :)
OK I think my mind is clear now!
Have a wonderful Wednesday!
12 comments:
I am so glad to see I am not the only crazy one buying baby stuff lol. Good luck with your letter!
Good luck with your letter!! I am sure it will turn out beautifully!! :)
Haha, our blogs sound so similar! We are going to be buying a car seat/stroller this weekend, and we have decided on something a little different than a pack and play! Thought I'd tell you, it's called a co-sleeper. I like it better cause I won't have to get out of bed to check on the baby. They have it at babies r us. And the letter will turn out just fine, ours is finished and I've edited it over and over, but I've realized that it's great and it's who we are, and that's all it can be. Great job setting a deadline by your anniversary, that's what we did and it worked! We are finished! We have been told we will be online by July 30th!
I agrere - it is SO hard trying to decide what to put in the letter!! Nothing like trying to sell yourself...lol. :) But I'm sure it will be great and it sounds like you guys are taking a great approach to it! Yeah for baby stuff!!! I just finished our nursery last night...still haven't solved the car seat controversy...lol! :)
Adorable picture!! Good luck with your letter!! xo
Cute pic! The Dear Birth Mom letter is definitely a one person job :) I'm sure it'll turn out great.
The DBM letter was one of the hardest parts of the whole process for me...I KNOW how you are feeling right now! Our letter is in one of the links at the top right hand corner of the sidebar on my blog if you want to check it out.
When I wrote ours, I collected snippets of ones I liked from around the web, and then I used that as my springboard for writing out letter. It is NOT easy, but the best advice I have is to just write from your heart! Just start somewhere, and let it flow...you can always change and correct later!
GOOD LUCK,
Melba
Going through the adoption process twice (and possibly a third in the future), the best piece of advice I can give about your letter is work to capture your family's true essence. If you write something that really isn't you--and then you meet--it will be obvious you are trying to be somebody you are not. Not every expectant parent is going to be attracted to every prospective adoptive parent's letter. Our second letter totally rocked--with new technology and all--and Jada's birthmom didn't even see it--until after we were chosen (how ironic). If you use something like photoshop--then it is easy to swap out pictures if you want to change up your profile. We were in the book for 9 months the 2nd time and I changed out photos three times (our son was also 2 1/2 and changing a lot.) Current photos are a plus. . . and the most important thing (in my opinion) is it is not about what you have, where you go, how big your house is, how much money you make, etc.--it is about who you are, how truthful you are, how caring you are, how open you are, loving, empathetic, kind, understanding, well--you get it. You will do just fine!! I am always willing to take a look at your profile when you are done if you wish. I think it is good to have somebody who doesn't really know you to see it and give a "non emotional" opinion. (Friends and family sometimes are very strong with their opinions because they love you so much! haha!) Sorry this was so long, I should have just emailed you!
The BML is hard. It took me a while to even start it. Everyday Jay would ask me if I was done...and I would say "It's hard!" Our arrangement was, I would write the main body (90%) and he would write the part about himself. So I am finally done and now it is his turn...every day I would ask him "Are you done?" and He would say "It is HARD!" LOL! And I would just laugh and say "Now you know what I was going through!" It took us a while to get it completed and then it took us 7 hours one day to make the layout for the profile for AH. But it was done in @ a month and by the end of July we were online!
And now I look back and say "that wasn't so hard, now was it?"
Best wishes...your letter will be PERFECT!WRite from the heart.
Good luck with the letter! I'm sure you'll do a great job sweetie. (((HUGS)))
I hope your letters start to come together.
And how exciting that you have some baby items in the house. I bet that makes it feel so much more real.
Also, California, YIKES. Its expensive to live there.
I'm in the same quandary about the letter. I'm close to finishing - but need DH to edit his 'about me' part and I need to fill in some blanks.
Can you believe that some people do thirty pages of this? Oh heck no! LOL
Allie
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